Yes indeed.

Very helpful.

You are from the Conquering clan. If they can be dominated then you are attracted as a way of sowing your seed without too much rivalry. It may also reveal a connection to a clan that sees other as possessing  inferior traits combined with some lack in yours as mutually beneficial.

Did you have any children with this mrs K. The theory would tend to support a great desire to have them but I'm aware your age and other inherited traits would be strongly counted intuitive.

The theory seems to be especially potent in terms of longevity in your case but I am unaware of any reason for this other than strong familial bonds like this belonging to seahorses.

 The theory would also support 2nd intimates who we have children with as more powerful as 1st childbearers in terms of bonding. All though of course all children represent a deep albeit fractured bond of inheritance. 

Kin recognition is purposed at a Genetic level and worked out in social and cultural patterns.

You cant switch it on and off but, Like you say, you can opt to avoid it due at times to its negative powerful impact.

Here perhaps we have another inherited pattern kicking in, which is a survival instinct that determines childbearing choices, often opting for safety over wild passion and deep commitment. Both passion and deep commitment don't always make for good child rearing environments as the children need the sacrifice of both progenitors.

Of course the answer to the memories and dreams is multifaceted but begins at a deep level of attraction. By deep , I mean a yearning instinct as strong as life and death (your individual meaning and existence-think death bed and who you would want there and why).

This is then encoded as a primitive memory in the amygdala. Primitive here means basic responses of fear, love, survival and sacrifice. Its the kind of response that would cause a parent to kill themselves rather than a child, or, kill the child to spare then suffering. In very primitive cultures infanticide was often witnessed when resources were scarce. This was not to be mistaken for unlove but instead a deep feeling commitment to the child and its suffering. Only a deeply committed parent could reach inside to the basic instinct of suffering and love and the survival of the species to do such a thing.

Anyway, the Amygdala is hard wired where other parts of the memory system are more plastic. The Amygdala is connected to instinct but unfortunately it is also where strong or traumatic memories are stored. These include deep love attachments and survival trauma (PTSD). This is why there are difficult to reprogram, and why such strong feelings and symptoms of a physical arousal nature are associated with deep memory and especially flashbacks: sweating, nightmares, increased hear rate and breathing, panic feelings, dizziness, feeling like you are about to die, breathlessness, anger, paranoia, etc.

So, basically its an instinct and the rational human evolved mind does not like it because it is not logical, This is how in modern society we humans are stressed as we have lost touch with real life choices. Look at your pet cat for example, it retains its survival instinct while being able to function as a domestic animal due to its relative lack of brain power and cultural sophistication. It leaps away in an instant startled or into a fight one second and ready to die or kill the next. Then instantly the cat can be totally at rest. The Amygdala has done its job and the cat is not in conflict with it.

This female from you past was a fight and flight experience.

Mr Kid?

what have you seen that I have not?