Difficult one this, to be fair I think life is how it is and that who knows what would have happened if I had made different choices etc. I am happy and healthy with a loving family so no I wouldn't change anything.

It's a difficult one this one because if you go back in time and change something then the ripple effect changes the course of events in history for other people.

Suppose I go back to my 16 year old self and make me use a condom so that I can go to university, that means my grandkids don't exist.

As I didn't have to earn money to pay for my kid I went to university instead of getting a job, I didn't receive first aid training because I wasn't trained in it by the army and the road traffic accident I attended resulted in a man bleeding to death instead of me administering first aid.

I never met my wife because I wasn't in the night club with my army mates due to me being a uni student. Because of that I didn't go to the Dominican republic and save a 5 year old Canadian girl from being swept out to sea by a freak wave.

I also didn't go on holiday with my wife and save a 10 year old boy from drowning in Lanzarote, or the old man in Porto Cristo harbour in Majorca. Finally I didn't go to Morrisons at Parkgate and clear the throat of the man who was choking to death in the cafe.

So no, je ne regret rien....

Heman wrote:

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It's a difficult one this one because if you go back in time and change something then the ripple effect changes the course of events in history for other people.

Suppose I go back to my 16 year old self and make me use a condom so that I can go to university, that means my grandkids don't exist.

As I didn't have to earn money to pay for my kid I went to university instead of getting a job, I didn't receive first aid training because I wasn't trained in it by the army and the road traffic accident I attended resulted in a man bleeding to death instead of me administering first aid.

I never met my wife because I wasn't in the night club with my army mates due to me being a uni student. Because of that I didn't go to the Dominican republic and save a 5 year old Canadian girl from being swept out to sea by a freak wave.

I also didn't go on holiday with my wife and save a 10 year old boy from drowning in Lanzarote, or the old man in Porto Cristo harbour in Majorca. Finally I didn't go to Morrisons at Parkgate and clear the throat of the man who was choking to death in the cafe.

So no, je ne regret rien....

 

 

 

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You could get in to uni by wearing a condom!  Was that under Thatcher?

-- Edited by ian on Monday 23rd of February 2015 07:09:39 PM

When I first walked into a pub and said '' pint of lager please mate''

As sad as it sounds, in the general long run of my life regarding the drink aspect I regret it!

Incidentally - I took the mrs to watch Project Almanac. That's about time travel. Good clean teen film which ticks the time travel box.

Yesterday I will be winning the lottery for today as soon as I get tomorrow's paper and go back to yesterday and put the numbers on.

Good grief, where do I start?

 

There have been a few times when I've had good jobs, paying good money, with good prospects of moving up the "pecking order" of promotion, and I've thrown them away because I wanted to be out there enjoying myself instead of the same old routine day after day!

Too restless, and being a teenager in the late 60's/early 70's, life was for living, travelling up and down the country to rock/pop concerts and meeting lots of like minded people and "getting off" with quite a few gorgeous girls, and that just about sums up my first ten years after leaving school.

After that it all went downhill ... ... I got married ... only joking!

 

There's lots more that I could add to my working life experiences and regrets but I would only depress you all with my tales of woe so I'll leave it there!  

 

 

I left school in 1984, What I seriously lacked for the six years after was a life plan, I've never been the one to plan ahead and I always lived for the day, I'll tell you the exact truth that until I got married back in 99, All I cared about was making sure I had enough money in my pocket to keep me in drink and to follow the millers, Career wise I didn't care, I have to be perfectly honest. I was renting a one bedroomed council flat, and working as a delivery driver for an engineering firm.

After getting married, and the birth of my son, I began to act more responsible, and I set up self employment as a Darts equipment wholesaler, (had a shop in Mexborough) and also sold on ebay amazon etc, Things went plain sailing till around 2011 time when I began to struggle with alcoholism and the breakdown of my marriage. I lost my business, marriage, and for a certain amount of time my family, the darkest period of my life. My biggest regret is the alcohol binges, It made me dependant, and I have to be perfectly honest, at times a selfish toohat!

As we now sit in 2015, I'm in a much happier place, I still drink, but only maybe once a week, heavily curtailed and I am now at the stage where I can enjoy a drink, without the sweats, shakes, anxiety etc. I'm back on good terms with the family, and have a brilliant set of friends.

I suppose one good thing that came out this affair for me showed how resilient I was in the long run in being able to turn my life around, If I can draw any positives from it at all.

-- Edited by cheeks on Wednesday 25th of February 2015 09:00:38 AM

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Don't know why they would cack themselves. No one has ever died near me. 😀

 The Canadian girl was the luckiest kid on the planet...I was swimming in the sea when the freak wave hit me first. It spun me around for about 10 seconds. It wasn't when it hit the beach that caused the problem, it was when the water returned back to the sea..it dragged twin girls in and the mother saved one. I swam towards shore, there was no way I could see her underwater because sand had been churned up, so I guessed where she should be and dived down. I was about 2 feet down when I felt her arm and dragged her up. When I got back to shore I gave her back to her mum and then....


.....sobbed my eyes out. Dunno why I cried but I did...and I very very rarely cry. 2001 if I recall. 

-- Edited by Heman on Wednesday 25th of February 2015 02:04:01 PM

-- Edited by Heman on Wednesday 25th of February 2015 02:04:38 PM

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Very interesting and heartwarming Heman, I would have sobbed my eyes out too mate, if I had gone through the same experience.

In terms of regrets in life, I think that when you experience a situation that you do regret, it provides you with a learning curve and I think if its a major regret you can take that experience and become a better individual. In essence, I believe that regrets are just common day experiences for the vast majority of people. Although naturally the sheer scales of regrets always differ.

I've personally dropped more ******* and made more mistakes in my life than I care to remember, Would have I done things differently? Of course I would, but that's the benefit of hindsight. None of us have that crystal ball, or the guardian angel pointing us in the right direction before we make a **** up. And once that **** up is made, the only option we have is to turn it into a good situation by any means necessary.  

One thing I do regret is neglecting my education, I have a passion for modern history and I always wanted to study it at university and lecture it at a sixth form college. I have to admit, I am very poor at planning things and keeping to a schedule. It is something that has troubled me throughout my life and something which I readily confess, have not tried to rectify. Apart from running a dart equipment wholesale business (I have a passion for darts, and have played at county level in the past) I have worked in jobs that I hated, completely hated, but I took no steps to alter it until I set up self employed (Long since dissolved) I do think, that a big weakness in people is failure to follow their ambitions and dreams and I think it's an overriding factor with the younger generation today. It's not so much a case of a something for nothing culture. I think many people like me, lack the motivation. I am you could say, a self confessed drifter!

 

-- Edited by cheeks on Wednesday 25th of February 2015 02:21:00 PM